Once upon a time there were two beautiful women living in Boston. They both were well educated, well-traveled and led an active lifestyle. When they turned 50 they began developing the same issue – droopy eyelids.
Droopy eyelids don’t make anyone super attractive. So what to do? How to solve this problem?
One woman started researching plastic surgeons and in a few months she had an eyelid surgery. The problem was solved for $5,000 and a couple of weeks of recovery time. She was happy.
Another woman decided to take a different approach. She joined Phace Gym. She exercised 20 minutes every day 5 days a week and after 3 months she had results comparable with plastic surgery – all for $65 a month. She was extremely happy. She had other positive effects and in general was now looking at least 10 years younger.
One problem – two different solutions? Which one would you choose?
Stress doesn’t look good on anyone. When you are in a stressful situation your body becomes tight and your face looks tense, none of this adds to our beauty and well-being.
But what is stress? To me stress is our reaction to reality when it doesn’t meet our expectations. Most of the time there is a gap between our idea of how things should be and the reality. But sometimes this gap becomes bigger than we are ready to accept and this is how we become stressed out. In other words we generate stress when we don’t like the reality and try to resist it. Of course, you can resist as much as you want but reality will always win.
When you have strong reactions to the gaps between your ideas of reality and reality itself you live in constant 3F state (fight, flight or freeze). This is not a natural state for you to be but since your body has no choice it adjusts, and when it does our body begin to function creatively. So instead of using the direct routes for nutrients and oxygen supply it uses detours. This supply chain is not efficient and eventually it can experience all sorts of issues, and when it does we have health problems and don’t look our best.
So yes, try to eliminate as much stress from your life as you can or look at stress differently (aka try to close the gap between your idea of reality and the reality – also a possibility).
Due to increase of lifespan and advances in the medical science in the last several decades, the movement against aging has become one of the main preoccupations in our society.
Rejuvenating procedures and treatments, which are focused on “restoration to a previous state” – play a key role in this movement. We are trying not only to stop time but also reverse it by using a variety of treatments, tools, procedures, modalities and techniques. In other words we are trying to bring closer our Subjective age and the way we look.
When you observe your habitual poses, how you sit, how you walk, how you work, how you talk on the phone, perhaps you noticed habits that possibly led to the gradual change in your posture, or appearance of the neck or the forehead?
As the saying goes,
Watch your words, they become actions;
Watch your actions, they become habits;
Watch your habits, they become character;
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.
Often our actions and motions are triggered by stress and produce 3F effect – fight, fly or freeze responses. After years of living in the stress driven environment our brain begins considering stress and associated responses as (new) normal, and this is where the brain-body disconnect happens.
I will be repeating this again, and again, and again. Because I truly believe in this and I want you to believe in this too. Despite your current circumstances, your upbringing, your experience, your background, your education, your country of origin, your profession and most of all your age.
One of my childhood memories of my Mom and her girlfriends was that they called each other grandmas. Hey, Grandma Galina! Hello, Grandma NIna! It was a joke but I did not like it. They were young, beautiful, professional women, mostly doctors (most of my Mom’s friends were her colleagues) in their late 30s – early 40s with pre-school and school age children – not grandmas by any means, yet they were minimizing themselves and their abilities by declaring that they are old, fragile and incapable. At least this is how I perceived it and this rubbed me in the wrong direction.
So ever since when I witnessed that a woman in her 40s, 50s, 60s or beyond is told she is old it triggers the same feeling: minimizing the women’s importance, role and everlasting beauty because of her age did not agree with me. I immediately want to jump between her and the person who puts her in the “old” category and say: Stop it! Immediately! She is not old! Sometimes I even want to punch this person in the nose. I never did although.
I believe that women don’t have to age according to the (outdated) society norms and give up on themselves and their dreams – ever.
This is why I help women to stay young, healthy and beautiful by providing inspiration, education and practical tools. And while self-confidence is an internal state, sometimes you need a little bit of the external boost to feel better about yourself. The mirror effect – also known as Look Better, Feel Better – is a powerful tool.
Phace Gym routines are one of the skill sets that I equipe women with. They learn how regular face and neck exercises can transform the way they look and feel.